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    Friday of the First Week of Lent – The Weight of Forgiveness

    Forgive and you will be forgiven – Luke 6:37

    I’m having trouble finding the words today.  

    What can I say about forgiveness? 

    I know I ask for it from our Lord, probably on a daily basis, but am I willing to extend it to others just as easily?

    The passage today says “Forgiveness isn’t a feeling – it’s a decision.”  

    A decision.

    Let’s sit with that for a minute.  “Forgiveness isn’t a feeling – it’s a decision.”  

    To me it’s always been a feeling.  

    Forgiving meant I felt better.  

    It meant it was over.  The offense was null and void and in the past.  

    But is that true?  

    If I’m being totally honest with myself, perhaps it wasn’t null and void.  Perhaps I buried the feelings, but did I really forgive my offender?  

    Or am I still carrying the weight of it all?  Holding onto hurts only to have them bubble up at unexpected times?  

    The passage says, “forgiveness doesn’t erase the past, but it loosens its grip on our hearts.  We’re not only setting others free – we’re healing ourselves.” 

    So…if we embrace those words…we can hand our hurts over to God.

    We can decide to let Him handle it.

    In His way, in His time.  

    And we can begin to heal. 

    As difficult as it may be to accept at times, I suppose it’s true… 

    Forgiveness is a decision.  Deciding to forgive is intentional.  

    And ultimately, it’s freeing.

    So maybe forgiveness is both.

    A feeling and a decision.   

    If I decide to forgive, if I hand my hurts over to God, I’ll feel lighter, happier, more peaceful.

    So…this lent I’ll pray for strength, honesty, and mercy and I’ll pray the same for you.

    Forgive me Lord for my failings and help me to forgive others.  We lay our hurts at Your feet…you can take it from here.  Amen. 

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    Thursday of the First Week of Lent – Knock and Keep Knocking

    The title of the passage today created quite a visual for me. 

    Knock and keep knocking.  

    “Sometimes we knock once, don’t hear an answer, and give up.”  

    How often has that happened in our lives?  

    We arrive at the door of something or someone we are excited to see, we knock.  And we keep knocking even if no one answers right away.  

    We wait.  

    We knock again.  

    We want “them” to be home, to answer, to speak to us. 

    But, if we are feeling hesitant or reluctant? 

    If we are somewhere we really don’t want to be?

    We knock on that door differently, with a bit less intensity.  

    We knock or ring that bell once and then…

    We walk away.  

    We “tried”, we did what we “should”.  We think, “oh well…didn’t work out”.  

    We convince ourselves we did enough.  

    This lent, whose threshold are we standing on?  

    Do we really want an answer?  

    Are we willing to receive it?  

    Will we keep knocking?

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    Wednesday of the First Week of Lent – A God Who Sees

    “Withdraw into your heart, and speak there with God who listens.” – St. Augustine

    My quiet time each morning is the most precious part of my day.  

    I usually rise before the sun, and before anyone in my home.  

    I start the coffee and empty the dishwasher in the few minutes while it brews.  

    I turn on a small light in the corner of my family room and I sit with God.  

    I begin by offering my own little prayer of invitation…

    “Come Holy Spirit.  Come be with me in this pocket of quiet prayer.  Help me to keep my heart open to God’s word, and to carry his message with me throughout my day.”

    It’s during those quiet moments that I realize nothing else really matters.  The clutter on my kitchen counters, the laundry that needs to be done, the task list for the day.  

    Everything can wait.  

    My mornings are precious, they are mine and mine alone with God and I cherish them.   

    The noise of life, the distractions, the chaos we endure each day, it’s all the work of the enemy to draw us away from Him.  

    See Revelation 12:17 – So the dragon was enraged with the woman, and went off to make war with the rest of her children, who keep the commandments of God and hold to the testimony of Jesus.

    Today’s passage is a subtle reminder that despite all of my lofty intentions for growth and progress, silence and stillness is the way.

    I’ve learned God speaks in the silence. 

    God listens in the silence. 

    God knows our hearts.  

    And he loves us always.

    Psalm 46:10 – Be still and know that I am God.

    Today…for me and for you, I pray for more stillness, more silence, more peace, more love.  Amen.

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    Tuesday of the First Week of Lent – The Power of a Word

    Jesus.

    What was your first thought when you read His name?  

    Jesus.

    Did it bring peace and calm?  Did it bring hope?  

    Or did it launch reminders of anger and frustration?  

    How often we use His name in vain.

    How often we use it as a punchline or flippantly utter it in passing.

    Yet, how often do we confess the sinful nature of those actions?

    Well…this writing went in a direction I didn’t expect…

    I suddenly realized just how often I use His name. 

    I use it in prayer, and I revere it, but if I’m being honest, I oftentimes use it in ways that are less than reverent.

    Full disclosure…I gave up cursing for Lent.  It was not until I declared it to myself and my family that I realized just how often I use inappropriate language.  

    So…I’m using a good old fashioned “swear jar” and offering prayers of repentance.  

    Each time I use a swearword I place a coin in a jar as a visual reminder (as of this writing there are already several coins in that jar) and then I whisper a prayer asking forgiveness.  

    This passage not only shined a light on my failings of choice language, it taught me that Jesus isn’t just a word, it isn’t just an expression…it’s powerful, it’s above all, and it’s a prayer.  

    So, this Lent, I pray for awareness of my words, and to think before I speak.

    And, when I find myself at a loss for expressive thoughts in prayer… I’ll simply whisper His name…

    Jesus.

    And I’ll remember He is not a punchline…

    He is my Lord and Savior.  

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    Simply Steeyn: A Personal Reflection of “Growing in Grace, The Wisdom of the Saints”

    I’ve been trying to come up with a plan for Lent this year.  Something that would nurture my relationship with God rather than just giving up a favorite food for the -umpteenth time.  

    I knew I wanted it to be something I could commit to, something I could learn from.  Something realistic and intentional.  And this year…I really wanted it to be something attainable.  

    I’ll be honest…each year, my intentions were good.  On Ash Wednesday, my heart was in the right place and I planned to be “perfect” in my Lenten journey. 

    I wanted to be faithful.  I wanted to feel enlightened.  I wanted to feel successful and peaceful on Easter morning.  I expected to be glowing from within with the light I’d received from my journey with God and the Holy Spirit.  (Cue angelic music here).

    As I’m sure you’ve already concluded…somehow, someway, I always seemed to fall short.  

    Life always got in the way.  Easter morning would arrive and of course I celebrated God’s gift to us in the resurrection, but I also felt a pang of regret that I let Him down. 

    That once again, I failed in my pursuit of a deeper relationship with Him. 

    Because here’s the thing, in past years, I planned to…

    Go to daily mass, failed. 

    Pray the rosary each night, failed. 

    Ok…pray just one decade of the rosary, still failed.

    Stay off social media, failed.

    The list goes on…

    Truth be told, I just now, in this moment, realized how much “I” was in those past plans. 

    Maybe I was making Lent too much about me, and not enough about Him?

    Fast forward to Ash Wednesday, February 18, 2026 –

    I picked up the reflection booklets offered at my church after receiving ashes.  I took them for myself and my family.  I knew I needed to spend some time with each of them. So, on Thursday morning, the day after Ash Wednesday, with my coffee in hand, I began reading.  

    But suddenly, I found myself writing. 

    Side note, I’ve always been drawn to the idea of writing, but always struggled with a topic. What could I write about that people might actually want to read?

    Never once did I consider writing about God and my relationship with Him.

    But today, today felt a bit different. As I write this introduction, I realize that God is already at work and I’m feeling his presence. He is firmly at the center of this project.

    He led me here.

    He took something I’ve always loved to do and turned it into something I never expected…

    A blog about God.

    So, during this Lenten season, I’ll read each passage in Growing in Grace and will post it here and I’ll accept God’s invitation to share my thoughts.

    I’ll seek stillness in my heart and mind and I’ll listen for God’s guidance. 

    I pray He speaks to me in the pages of this booklet and fills me with the confidence and the humility to share my feelings…without fear, while I grow in His love.

    I hear you Lord…and I pray you help me find the words. 

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    Ash Wednesday — Begin Again

    “You can always begin again, because God is more eager to forgive than we are to sin.”  St. Alphonse’s Liguori – The Way of Salvation.

    Begin again…how many times have we tried to do that?  Whether it’s decluttering our homes, re-starting a fitness plan or promising to spend more time in prayer.  

    So how many times can we make the same mistakes and still ask for forgiveness?

    Sometimes I think God is shaking his head at me, thinking “Really?…this again?” (Inserting whatever “this” happens to be at the moment).

    So I wonder…is God’s mercy really unending? 

    Can we really just begin again?

    Can I change the habits that lead me away from God and make choices more in union with His plan?  

    …Let’s leave those thoughts right here for a moment. I think it’s safe to say this writing and reflection project is going to raise many more questions than answers…

    Back to the passage…today it says, “we fast, not to punish ourselves, but to make space for grace”. 

    I typically viewed Lenten fasting as deprivation. 

    I never considered my efforts to fast as a way to give thanks, offer intention, or honor God. 

    Approaching fasting as a way to make space for grace, well…that changes the narrative. 

    What if I try to make my fasting more intentional?

    What if I dedicate it for someone, or something?

    What if I “make space for grace” and accept God’s forgiveness?

    And, as implied in the passage below, this year…my challenge will be to leave my sins in the past…

    “Don’t carry last year’s shame into this new season.  Begin again.  Grace is already here.”